LatinLov, in conversation with Rextopher, once bemoaned that most of his dates seem to end up as either one-nighters or lesbianesque -- i.e. they want to move in on the second date -- referring to an old joke about the differences between gay men and lesbians. The joke has made the rounds of the gay & lesbian communities for years. I myself was told this joke by a wise old dyke friend of mine in the late 80s. It goes something like this: Q: What does a lesbian bring to a second date? A: A moving van. Q: What does a gay man bring to a second date? A: What second date?"